When I say the evolution of people I don’t mean how we humans came into being from ancient apes, rather our evolution with the people around us.
2020 had been quite an enlightening year for me in terms of relationships and so here’s me sharing some wisdom:
“As you grow up your circle of friends gets smaller and smaller until you’re left with the truest, closest ones.” I’m sure you have heard this saying more times than you can count. I always understood this saying but very recently I experienced it. I have come to the realization that not everybody is going to help you grow and not everyone is a friend. I saw a post on Instagram that said that we seriously need to normalize using words like acquaintances, colleagues, etc, NOT EVERYONE IS YOUR FRIEND.
s time goes on I only want the truest of friends who are actually going to put in the same effort into a relationship that I am, who are going to help me be the person I have envisioned for myself, who themselves are working towards building a better future rather than living in the past.
I watched a movie a while back that spoke about how it’s unfair to put too much pressure on that ‘special somebody’. We have all kinds of relationships in our lives, friends you talk to every day, colleagues who help you with work, coffee buddies, family friends and so many more, How can you expect one person to be all of that?
When you expect your girlfriend/boyfriend to be all of those people for you you’re putting the pressure of numerous people on just one person. Expecting too much from everyone or that ‘special someone has never faired anyone well. You wouldn’t enjoy that pressure yourself so why put someone else through the same?
3. PEOPLE CHANGE, whether it might be for the better or worse but yes people do change! My brother once told me that as a person grows they are going to thrive with time, and that change isn’t always going to be good for all the people around them. Some people might be happy with the change while others upset, but you just have to learn to respect the changes in a person and let them grow.
Up until pretty recently, I used to believe that everyone really is nice, that people make mistakes and do bad things not because they are bad but because of the situation they were put in.
For so long I believed that everyone has a kind heart and the best thing to always do is forgive and forget, but over 2020 and this year I have learned that not everyone in your life is here to stay, and that’s okay! People make rational conscious decisions and forgiving and forgetting isn’t always the best way through. Instead of being troubled over the loss of a person in your life be glad for what they have taught you. Everyone’s growing and the ones that are meant to stay, always will.
Comments